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In communities that enjoy sexual power play you have a top/dominant and a bottom/submissive.

This is particularly prevalent amongst trans people on twitter (where I see it used a lot) you see a lot of people using this emoji under for example a powerful looking selfie of someone who appears dominant, as a playful offer of submission.




That's kind of weird to label it based on sexual roles by default. How would they go about explaining that label to a child? How about puss in boots face?


The emoji has another name, “pleading face”. This is basically how it became to be used by bottoms. Tops don’t plead, but bottoms do.

There’s lots of emojis that the culture has given alternate meanings to, for example the peach and the eggplant.

You could ask “how would I explain this to a child” to anything adults talk about that is sexual in nature. Usually the answer is “don’t.”

I don’t think TFA was written for children and the author wanted to include this common internet meme in to their article title.


Perhaps the author assumes that a child with a deep interest in rust Unicode edge cases has likely been on the internet before, and may well have been exposed to the existence of sex?


On the other hand, if anyone has a good way to explain variable-length integer encodings with constant-complexity backtracking to a child, please let me know.


Every sentence starts with a capital letter, and ends with a full stop. Now, imagine that every sentence is at most four words long. It might be one, or two, or three, but it won't have five words.

Imagine you drop your finger randomly on a word. How can you find the start of the sentence it's in?

(After this, if the child were familiar with binary, I'd show the actual representation of UTF-8, perhaps colour-coded. It's really quite intuitive. No need to go for the abstract straight away: if the child can generalise, they can generalise, and if not, there's no point making it artificially confusing.)


> How would they go about explaining that label to a child?

You wouldn't. Just like you probably wouldn't explain the sexual meanings behind the eggplant or peach emojis to a child.

Not sure why this needs to be a consideration. If you're writing for an audience that includes children, sure, use child-friendly terms and concepts. If you don't care about including children in your readership, go nuts.


But, to explain the categorical meaning of the term, you have to lean on the sexual meaning. That is a pretty big difference. And unnecessarily scopes the audience to people that wouldn't be offended by this. Especially when ⊥ exists. Why is that not available as an emoji?

Granted, I don't think everyone needs to be prudish, such that this is a bit of a tempest in a teapot. But it is very different than claiming that explicitly sexual reframing of other items is the same thing.


No no, that's why some people here are confused and out of the loop - the actual unicode name is not 'bottom face', but 'pleading face' or 'face with pleading eyes' (I'm not sure of a good reference for 'actual' names, got those from two different unicode dictionary type sites).


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Top/bottom don’t even have anything to do with gender, and it wouldn’t matter if they did.


It's a fucking pleading face and they made it about sexual roles for no good reason... It's stupid.


The author didn't make it about sexual roles; it was already about sexual roles for a particular in-group that the author is a part of. The fact that you (or I) didn't know about it until now is irrelevant.

I'm sure there are plenty of seemingly-mundane ways that you or I communicate that others might find "stupid" (I know I'm consciously trying to begin fewer sentences with "I mean"). So what? Getting worked up about something like this, enough to post about it on an internet forum, seems a bit much.

It feels like you have some conscious or unconscious axe to grind (or at least some high level of discomfort) with people who have different sexual "culture" (for lack of a better word) than you do. Maybe ask yourself why?


Every meme is stupid. That’s the point.

Also, pleading is an actual part of this very common sexual dynamic. If you’re just made uncomfortable by sex that’s fine but you don’t have to turn that in to judgment of people who aren’t.


> If you’re just made uncomfortable by sex that’s fine but you don’t have to turn that in to judgment of people who aren’t.

You accuse me of making assumptions and then make your own incorrect ones.

I find it annoying when people weave their personal non-technical agendas into technical discussions. I can anticipate your response now... there is no agenda. But go read the article and you will notice is not even specific to this one emoji.

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Keep up the good work mr/ms downvoter, I've got a lot of points to burn and no shop to spend them in. Good to know I'm pissing off one person who is chronically offended by my skepticism.


> I find it annoying when people weave their personal non-technical agendas

This is the problem with people like yourself: just because someone makes a reference to something prevalent in their subculture in normal writing or conversation, you get all worked up and complain that they're trying to "push an agenda".

No, they're just speaking using their own subculture's jargon. I don't get why you seem to need to label it as something nefarious.

While I was aware of the sexual connotations of "top" and "bottom", I didn't know about this emoji's "alternate name" or its use here. It didn't detract from the article at all for me, and as a bonus, I learned something new about how people different from myself communicate sometimes.

About the only thing I can say in "agreement" is that sure, communicating in this manner can cause confusion and make such communication less clear. But the author probably doesn't particularly care about that, and has no obligation to do so.


> Keep up the good work mr/ms downvoter

It’s they/them downvoter actually.

But seriously, as far as I can tell it’s not possible to downvote people who have replied directly to me. It’s just other people downvoting you because what you’re saying is unpopular.

You’re certainly not pissing me off. That’s why I’m trying to calmly explain your errors. But it sounds like you’ve made up your mind and take disagreement as some kind of encouragement.


Yes, I know it's not you.

> But it sounds like you’ve made up your mind and take disagreement as some kind of encouragement.

I do find disagreement of silent onlookers with nothing to contribute irritating yes. Life is too short to fear controversial or unpopular ideas so I take it as encouragement. I'm happy to change my opinion in the face of compelling arguments, not thoughtless people.


If it were a "fucking pleading" face, it would pretty explicitly be about sexual roles.


> fucking pleading face...about sexual roles

Exactly.

(also, you are so worried about the kids, why are you making sex about anger in your anger over sex?)


I'm not worried about kids, and I don't care about sex, I'm making a point that this has been arbitrarily sexualised for no reason. Obviously you wouldn't give it that label by default, so what is the author trying to do here? This is supposed to be a technical problem.

I also find it funny that pointing out something is a weird and distracting choice is considered angry, and I can only assume by the onslaught of downvotes, uninclusive or something... or maybe my "what if" has been interpreted as a "think of the children", hard to know when people don't bother forming an argument.


The pattern: It's a fucking $X and they $Y

Idiomatically signifies exasperated frustration/anger in many contexts.

My entire comment was just a play on words, pointing out that the word "fucking" means "having sex" (i know it's one of those words with a ton of shades and nuance so there are lots of uses for it but for the play on words, let's be literal - also easier when the context is sexual to begin with). When read in that light - "a having sex pleading face and they made it about sexual roles" is amusing, no?


Fair enough lol, lost in the medium of text I think. "Fuck" is funnily enough one of if not the most adaptive english words.


People put references to hobbies/interests/trends in technical problem discussions all the time; that's what makes a shared culture. Look at e.g. "yeet" in the Rust expression discussions, or cheese/spam/etc. mentions in Python.

Why do you think this should be treated differently when that hobby/interest/trend is sexual? Why do you think something sexual is "weird/distracting" in a way that other interests aren't? Given that you explicitly said "How would they go about explaining that label to a child?", complaining that you're not making a "think of the children" argument and don't care about children seems more than a little disingenuous.


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whoosh


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Because your comment was ad hominem. I didn't flag it, but this is generally considered counterproductive to interesting discussion on HN and in general.


Oh I see. Yes does seem a bit odd, but their blog to do what they want with I suppose - they don't need to explain it to a child. Also it's possibly just so familiar to them as that they didn't think about it, don't know it as anything else.


Oh won't someone please think of the children reading articles on Rust internals??


It seems speaking of children is a trigger. My point is that it has been arbitrarily sexualised and doesn't seem relevant to the article.


Imagine my surprise in Latin American places where Activo/Passivo is exclusively used to describe top/bottom. I kinda have to assume that those words mean more than their congnates in context, or else I kinda feel bad for gay Latin communities being shoe-horned into archaic roles.


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The term “perverts” implies this behavior is abnormal but it’s very common. But in the USA for example the dominant culture pretends like this doesn’t happen and encourages repression of these desires. I’d rather adults be free to express themselves in healthy ways than judge and label them as “perverts” despite their feelings being common and normal.


I don’t mind, but it’s definitely okay for people to be offended by the use of (what seems to be?) BDSM fetish community terminology. I don’t think this is a common term. If I referred to the cat face emoji as the pussy emoji or the cunt emoji in a Rust programming language article, I’d expect some pushback.


i think it also depend on the social group/context. in some place the word bottom kinda lost some of his "sexual" connotation and become just a "fun" world for submissive/unassertive.

(to be clear i also think is okay not to like this kind of language)


Well, I'd rather that creepy males didn't parade their sexual fetishes everywhere and pretend that it's totally normal and fine to do so.


It's used by lesbians just as often and giving vs receiving has nothing to do with fetishes. You can have the most vanilla sex imaginable and still have a top/bottom.


You really created a new account just to post a rude comment like this?




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