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Vigorously seconding this as an enby in xir early 40s who's only just figuring a lot of shit out and still has so very much left to go. So much left to discovery and explore about xirselves, too.

Seconding that entire list of recommendations, as well. Xe haven't really touched the Tao Te Ching specifically but, speaking as a secular materialist post-theist, tarot and oracle decks have served xe incredibly well as introspective tools. Consider the Oblique Strategies deck if you want to sample a similar experience.

Wishing you luck!




> Vigorously seconding this as an enby

Respectfully, I'm not sure what gender identity has to do with midlife crisis. Happens to every human that has ever lived past a certain age.


I think it’s relevant because, stereotypically, men and women tend to display them differently. I’m curious how it would present in a non binary manner - perhaps that would be the most “true” of them, breaking free of norms?


Indeed. Only cracked xir enby trans egg shortly before hitting thirty.

But xir midlife crisis had far more to do with an abusive ex, "normative" but foolish financial choices, and other mental health issues.

The gender matters were and continue to ground xe more than not: They're an undeniable, celebration-worthy facet of xir identity and a regular source of joy. Gender euphoria is a thing! If you're cisgender but have found deep affirmation in an especially gendered outfit (e.g. a tuxedo or cocktail dress) then you've had a taste of what it's like to go beyond your baseline gender contentment. Hope that helps!


Thanks for the informative reply!


Xir pleasure!




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