Motivation has two dimensions: goal attractiveness, goal expectancy.
Goal attractiveness is basically how much do you want it and goal expectancy is how much you believe you can attain the goal.
As you can see they are two perpendicular forces which directly affect the direction your motivation/dedication towards attaining goals are pointing.
I don't know you, but a common problem many people face is that they look at the world around them and focus on other people's achievements and wish for the same. The only problem is on the motivation dimensions their scales get way tipped over..
As an example, you may look at what is happening on HN and wish for what Andrew Mason is doing with Groupon or Zuckerberg has achieved with FB. The issue is that while that goal is extremely attractive the expectancy of you achieving it is very negative and so the motivation vector ends up pointing in the negative direction.
Developing this argument as I go along, I would therefore say that the correct approach is to take stock of what your current strengths are, what your challenges are and strategize a plan. Namely one that sets you up with small bite sized goals which are positively geared for your current situation and continually update the goal statuses. Maybe have daily, weekly, monthly, quarterly and half yearly goals and work on them.
THEREFORE, you can definitely change, you just need to have realistic goals and discipline to tough it out.
Goal attractiveness is basically how much do you want it and goal expectancy is how much you believe you can attain the goal.
As you can see they are two perpendicular forces which directly affect the direction your motivation/dedication towards attaining goals are pointing.
I don't know you, but a common problem many people face is that they look at the world around them and focus on other people's achievements and wish for the same. The only problem is on the motivation dimensions their scales get way tipped over..
As an example, you may look at what is happening on HN and wish for what Andrew Mason is doing with Groupon or Zuckerberg has achieved with FB. The issue is that while that goal is extremely attractive the expectancy of you achieving it is very negative and so the motivation vector ends up pointing in the negative direction.
Developing this argument as I go along, I would therefore say that the correct approach is to take stock of what your current strengths are, what your challenges are and strategize a plan. Namely one that sets you up with small bite sized goals which are positively geared for your current situation and continually update the goal statuses. Maybe have daily, weekly, monthly, quarterly and half yearly goals and work on them.
THEREFORE, you can definitely change, you just need to have realistic goals and discipline to tough it out.