We're no longer humans, but ostriches shoving our heads into the sand. I think it's priceless to know exactly what people think of me, and not twist their arms and tongues, and then get a knife in my back once of a sudden. Everything could be qualified as hate speech... unless it's politically-correct hate speech, like, the hatred against single white heteresoxual men, who are openly being vilified nowadays.
I kept being called a "white man" and associated with crimes neither me, nor many any ancestors have done for thousands of years! So are my kids who are being harassed by the educational system and labeled "white". This is reverse racism! Race is not a scientific concept either! Can we stop using it and calling people "white", "black", "brown", "yellow", etc.?! I'm not even white per se - I'm only perceived as "white", because I'm not dark-skinned during the winter when I see no sun. How is this humane? How is this progress? How is "white and inherently racist" not hate speech, but it's allowed.
Heartbreaking. I feel for you, I really do, but right now the anti-racism resources are heavily taken up for the whole "getting murdered for the crime of 'jogging while black'" thing and so on.
I'm not downplaying your troubles in life. Sure sounds tough. But with limited resources, we have to pick where to concentrate the efforts.
I don't deny there's racism, but I'm not the offender, because of the appearance of my skin if I don't see enough sun. Neither are my kids. People who believe in self-identity do not honor that I don't identify myself as a white person. My people have never colonized countries, never had slaves - on the contrary, we've been slaves for a total of 7 centuries throughout our history! So, I sympathize and try to help, but, please, don't send my kids home crying with the guilt of being perceived as white people! This is not helping solve the racial issues by building up more unfairness! Racism is an individual guilt, it cannot be a collective one - just like any other crime. Accusing people of profiling Arabs as terrorists while profiling white people as inherently racist - how is this fair?!
Like gender, race involves both racial identity and socially ascribed race. Privilege, which relates to (but is not in and of itself) passive participation in systematic racism (and, on the flip side, oppression and victimization by racism, whether active or passive) is mostly a factor of socially ascribed race, not racial identity.
You can try to intellectualize this growing unfairness as much as you want, and twist every concept to your own liking, but don't think people are stupid, and don't see what you're trying to do. Eventually, all this will not end up well. Event the most patient run out of patience eventually and that's what I think people behind this is a seeking - a wide-scale conflict. Just look back in history! And see the writings on the walls around the globe! People are tired of this nonsense and activists planting guilt in them and their children.