I don’t think you do, given how I’ve broken it down to below ELI5 levels, and you’re still snarking at me, but, ok.
Additionally, you are quite wrong. I distinctly recall the first time I was ever literally moved to tears by music, and it was precisely when the choir sang their first note in A Survivor from Warsaw, op 46 by Arnold Schoenberg: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-TbFVYbDuVg
Since then, I have been touched by sadness, beauty, anger, awe, and many other emotions as a result of experiencing art.
Surely you're thinking of UI design. The term UX design was coined because it's not the same thing. You're right that UX design is not principally intended to benefit the user. That's by design.
I haven't heard that perspective before; the 'U' in "UX" stands for "User".
I think the term "User Experience" picked up in the late 90s (e.g. Don Norman et al's CHI95 paper) when folks felt that the term "interface" had become too narrow and implied a focus on screens and controls and excluded people and what they do with those screens & controls.
The "human-computer interface" originally referred to the boundary where those two systems interfaced and included hardware, software, and wetware. But nowadays if you ask someone to point to the "user interface" they'll probably point at the screen.
If you're interested, there seem to be a cottage industry of blog posts and infographics about the "difference between UI and UX" but in practice it seems that most people use them somewhat interchangeably and I'm not sure how much benefit the semantics debate provides in practice.
That's what a tube of chapstick is for. My dad's been doing that for >50yrs, and I have continued the tradition at gas stations that remove the trigger lock.
jwz wrote a document explaining why this is hard. (Note that this link may result in an unsavoury redirect if you click on it from here. You can, e.g. copy and paste it to avoid this.)
Yeah I think part of it is the attitude/illusion that the stakes used to be were lower earlier in life. Like, "oh how cute, they are sweating so much about petty things like teenage love and fitting in cliques, if only they knew how much it doesn't matter in the grand scheme of things"
But it does matter a lot in those years. Teens are correct in their assessment that fitting in is important. At least in some group. Doesn't have to be the "popular kids". As you grow up, achievements and status become more manifest, it's not so much about pretenses. Things are now more cemented and move slower. You have this or that profession with a certain status. You live in a good or a bad neighborhood, move in fancy or non fancy circles, can afford traveling or not, and so on. By contrast in your teens and early adulthood, all you have is how you perform in social interaction. Later you're like "maybe I'm awkward but I'm a surgeon and you're a fast food worker".
And when you're 60, the status fights are mostly over, you're living off of what you achieved earlier. So you think it was useless because now you have little to lose in future potential. You mostly have your familial and friendship situation cemented for the rest of your life, usually no more worry about who will marry you, whether you can be promoted high, whether your kids turn out good etc. Typically 60+ year olds don't have to prove themselves in the moment any more, they just ride on the past.
It reads like SEO spam: a plausible collection of statements scraped from other articles and then cobbled together with no understanding. It's a shame that stackoverflow has sunk to this.
So we don't need a warning when they do. What's not to understand?