My Facebook "happy place" involves using it like a glorified email system.
In other words, it's "a tool I use to contact people" and not "a place where I hang out."
I do not allow Facebook's various apps and operating system hooks to notify me ever unless I am directly messaged by somebody. Used this way, I find it really valuable and not distracting. There are tons of people I'd never be able to effectively keep in touch with without it.
I also unfollow all of my negative FB friends. This is FB's most underrated feature. Instead of unfriending a person and dealing with the possible fallout, you can quietly unfollow them so that they don't show up on your feed. You can still contact each other, and they don't know they've been unfollowed.
I'll always keep in touch with my closest friends, even if they move to a shack in the desert and I have to rent a camel to talk to them. But for the rest of the friends and family I maintain some level of contact with[1] - probably a hundred or so? - I don't know how I'd keep in touch with them anyway.
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[1] The threshold would probably be, "would I care if they got a new pet or not?"
In other words, it's "a tool I use to contact people" and not "a place where I hang out."
I do not allow Facebook's various apps and operating system hooks to notify me ever unless I am directly messaged by somebody. Used this way, I find it really valuable and not distracting. There are tons of people I'd never be able to effectively keep in touch with without it.
I also unfollow all of my negative FB friends. This is FB's most underrated feature. Instead of unfriending a person and dealing with the possible fallout, you can quietly unfollow them so that they don't show up on your feed. You can still contact each other, and they don't know they've been unfollowed.
I'll always keep in touch with my closest friends, even if they move to a shack in the desert and I have to rent a camel to talk to them. But for the rest of the friends and family I maintain some level of contact with[1] - probably a hundred or so? - I don't know how I'd keep in touch with them anyway.
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[1] The threshold would probably be, "would I care if they got a new pet or not?"