Quite frankly, I don't think this place has the capability to discern constructive "positive" negativity from truly pointless garbage.
Meanwhile the cloaked negativity where you're thinking cutting criticism but maintain a polite facade runs rampant. That's the toxicity I worry about.
When negativity becomes forbidden, it is only those with power whose negativity gets heard. They (read: you, Sam) only have to sit through negativity that's phrased appropriate to their 'position.'
This is a non-rule anyway. Suggestions aren't going to make the next gender hellhole thread any less toxic.
> Gentle reminders by peers are the best way we know to make the culture better.
Consider this a gentle reminder that you're trying to control the tone of conversations that can't be both polite and honest; it won't work, but that doesn't make you less of a meddling, controlling asshole for trying.
Meanwhile the cloaked negativity where you're thinking cutting criticism but maintain a polite facade runs rampant. That's the toxicity I worry about.
When negativity becomes forbidden, it is only those with power whose negativity gets heard. They (read: you, Sam) only have to sit through negativity that's phrased appropriate to their 'position.'
This is a non-rule anyway. Suggestions aren't going to make the next gender hellhole thread any less toxic.
> Gentle reminders by peers are the best way we know to make the culture better.
Consider this a gentle reminder that you're trying to control the tone of conversations that can't be both polite and honest; it won't work, but that doesn't make you less of a meddling, controlling asshole for trying.