Is a racist hateful? My grandmother was a racist and was a really good/kind women who dedicated much of her life to helping others (including people of color). She didn't treat other races hatefully, but she did have warped beliefs about other races- "stemming from ignorance and her religion instead of bigotry or hate" (your words).
I didn't compare him to nazis, skinheads, or other violent/hateful racists. You shouldn't equate racism with hate.
In short, I think it's a fair comparison. Right now, I don't think he's a hateful person though more information could change my mind.
Not sure what religion you're referring to, I'm aware you were using the parent's words but you were using them. So what religion do you think influenced your grandmother to be racist?
Though you could step beyond my/the parent comment's literal words to get to the gist of the point: While they deserve some sensitivity because they are a product of their religion/upbringing/culture, they don't get a free pass (google "moral relativism" if you want to see a mess of discussions about this).
I didn't compare him to nazis, skinheads, or other violent/hateful racists. You shouldn't equate racism with hate.
In short, I think it's a fair comparison. Right now, I don't think he's a hateful person though more information could change my mind.