>I have a bluetooth headset for making phone calls more safely with my older car (not capable of interfacing directly with my phone),

You are certainly not being any safer. The act of engaging in a phone call is what is distracting, not holding a device. Don't kid yourself.

http://www.usnews.com/news/articles/2013/06/12/aaa-study-usi...

http://mentalhealth.about.com/library/sci/0701/blcellphone70...

http://www.alertdriving.com/home/fleet-alert-magazine/north-...

http://www.mindthesciencegap.org/2013/03/14/look-no-hands-is...

Further, nobody is talking about people who use these technologies in private, they are talking about people who are using them in public.