So if China strategically bombed some US weapons research facilities, that would be just fine and normal?

You're the one who must be trolling. If China bombed American nuclear research facilities, I can't imagine many Americans would agree it's "not an attack on the American people".

??? WTF are you on. If Iran bombs US research facilities it's okay? I don't understand at all.

Because of course no Iranian people work at those bombed sites.

If Al Qaeda had just managed to fly planes into the Pentagon, would we somehow have decided "oh that's not really an attack on us?"