AFAIK that's an incorrect meme that just won't die. The performance issues you're thinking of have nothing to do with the filesystem itself, but with the I/O subsystem in Windows more generally. If you have evidence otherwise please share.
I'm on my phone and this is a longer discussion than I can have here, but the performance problems they're thinking of and the ones people usually rant about on these forums are not the same ones (or same magnitude). Before being so confident it's NTFS itself that's the issue, try ReFS (and FAT32 for that matter) and tell me if you see the performance problems you've encountered actually improve a lot. And then narrow down the cause. You might be surprised how much of it had to do e.g. with filter drivers or other things. And don't forget you're still testing one particular implementation on one OS, which doesn't say anything about a different one for the same filesystem on a different OS.
There are tools like voidtools Everything2 and WizTree that directly read NTFS from disk device bypassing windows FS apis and are blazingly fast (faster than find/du on ext4 in Linux).