> And yes, some people surely become too provoked by the request, but also the person making the request could often do a better job with the tone.
I agree. At a minimum, it needs to clearly come off as a "it's not you or personal, it's this weird condition I have, it's difficult for me to control at this time, and it causes me distress" - which is 100% true.
> Either way though, finding a truly non-provocative angle for this request is basically intractable.
You definitely never know what you're going to get from people! But, I suppose it's good to know if others have room to make space for you.
I agree. At a minimum, it needs to clearly come off as a "it's not you or personal, it's this weird condition I have, it's difficult for me to control at this time, and it causes me distress" - which is 100% true.
> Either way though, finding a truly non-provocative angle for this request is basically intractable.
You definitely never know what you're going to get from people! But, I suppose it's good to know if others have room to make space for you.