Yes thanks :p I used to be extremely uncomfortable in social situations so I have to reflect a lot.

I don't like having a lot of attention on me but that actually works great because people love talking about themselves. In group situations I try to identify super extroverted people and people with a high energy level that day and bounce random stuff off them to get the ball rolling, they will entertain the group. Then I'll single out a low-energy person and get them talking about their life.

But that's just what works for me. It also sounds weird and formulaic when I say it like that but it's not a premeditated thing, I just natually act that way.

Probably the most important thing when hosting is to project that you enjoy having these exact people around at this exact moment. If you can get yourself into that mood good things will follow. It's easier with people who fit into your dynamic.