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> women are becoming less and less accessible to average men

What the heck does that mean? Last I checked, population demographics weren't that far off 50/50 in most countries.



> What the heck does that mean? Last I checked, population demographics weren't that far off 50/50 in most countries.

Hey, I'm married so I'm just going by what my single / online dating friends tell me. It has nothing to do with demographics. In today's app-based environment, something like 80% of women are interested in / going for the top 10-20% of men, and it's getting even more extreme. Is this not true?


Are your friends mostly male or female?

It just feels oddly gender specific to assume that in an environment where there are approximately equal numbers of single men and women (no?), one gender has sights set too high and the other doesn't.


Gender ratio on Tinder is heavily skewed toward male than women, except Europe.[1]

No wonder why women are so incredibly selective. Gender ratio population wise is roughly equal, with slightly more women than men in the US, AFAIK. Men are chasing women in the wrong place.

1. https://www.reddit.com/r/Tinder/comments/165lsmp/tinder_gend...


Every city/region is different probably. I can see the above holding in Seattle and San Francisco, or even LA, but not Cleveland.


The study has been taken down for a long time now but OkCupid found that 80 percent of women went for 20 percent of men whereas men had a relatively normal distribution of women they went for.

This was a long time ago as well and I think the situation has gotten worse in the age of tinder and friends.

This is a summary of the article: https://techcrunch.com/2009/11/18/okcupid-inbox-attractive/


Huh. It says the literal opposite:

"Some of the conclusions aren’t surprising. The “most attractive” women receive five times as many messages as the average female does, with 2/3 of all male messages going to the top 1/3 of women. And women tend to favor the most attractive men, though the ratio is less extreme."


Unless you're in one of the few countries where polygamy exists, that still doesn't work out.

Basically you'll need as many single men than single women.

Now if you're talking about apps, a minority of men can date most of the women, but that doesn't work for long term relationships.


If men outnumbered the women, the numbers are going to be more stark, no? Also, online dating doesn't really match real life dating. You miss so much information.

Nobody's going around advertising their fancy cars, their hobbies and the church they goes to, etc. We're heavily focused on the perfect match rather than doing vibe check.


Wasn't it like this before tinder? That's kinda how I remember it was when I was going out to pubs/clubs.




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