> I consider the entire premise of marriage is that it is a permanent thing until death do us part.
Right so you invented a notion of marriage which doesn't apply in the society you live in and then invented a problem created by that invented supposition.
If marriage is not some kind of "special" arrangement, why do we place so much value on the concept?
Marriage is clearly very different from and more significant than simple friendship or other mundane relationship arrangement, and everyone's reasoning as to why will vary depending upon their religious and/or cultural upbringing and values.
Personally, as I stated earlier, I consider marriage to be some kind of permanent-ish arrangement (and especially if children become involved). There is an artificial out (divorce), but as far as I'm concerned it isn't something that should be used with wanton abandon. Thus, I place a lot of weight on why I would marry in the first place; if I am going to divorce, I should not have married in the first place.
I am deliberately violating the "Do not let perfect be the enemy of good." rule precisely because I demand a would-be marriage to be perfect given how many human rights I would flagrantly violate. I know I am never going to marry with such prerequisites and I desire that, because otherwise I cannot live with myself.
If you have any worthwhile arguments to the contrary to bring to the table I am quite happy to hear them. My conclusions thus far are the result of many years of deep and thorough deliberation, but I am also aware that it is far from infallible.
Right so you invented a notion of marriage which doesn't apply in the society you live in and then invented a problem created by that invented supposition.
This all sounds very normal.