> Light is “fast enough” it just redshifts to nothing. Gravity has no equivalent
This is wrong in two ways. First, light at the hole's horizon does not "redshift to nothing"; it just stays at the same radial coordinate because of the curvature of spacetime. The "redshift to nothing" view is an illusion, created by a bad choice of coordinates; that illusion was corrected in the late 1950s and early 1960s by the discovery of better coordinates.
Second, gravity does have an equivalent to light: gravitational radiation. Gravitational waves travel on null geodesics, just like light, and any gravitational waves at the hole's horizon would stay at the same radial coordinate just as light does.
Let’s say there is a light bulb inside the event horizon. It emits a photon. From the light bulb’s perspective, it sees the photon speeding away at the speed of light.
From an outside observer, we never see the photon. It can’t make it out. But — the photon does exist, and it is traveling at the speed of light over a finite (though deeply warped in spacetime) distance. How does the photon not reach us then? Is it not going at the speed of light?
The redshift model applies here; the photon is redshifted until it has no energy from our frame.
This is wrong in two ways. First, light at the hole's horizon does not "redshift to nothing"; it just stays at the same radial coordinate because of the curvature of spacetime. The "redshift to nothing" view is an illusion, created by a bad choice of coordinates; that illusion was corrected in the late 1950s and early 1960s by the discovery of better coordinates.
Second, gravity does have an equivalent to light: gravitational radiation. Gravitational waves travel on null geodesics, just like light, and any gravitational waves at the hole's horizon would stay at the same radial coordinate just as light does.