> Our culture is constantly telling you that if you can't find a job it's due to some kind of character defect.
You hit the nail on the head, its a combination of survivorship bias and just-world fallacy that cause people to hand-wave away the problems. Either out of "it doesn't happen to me" or "I've never seen it happen before" its really hard to reason with someone who doesn't see the thing you're complaining about to be a legitimate concern.
Compassion is the only answer. First self compassion, and then compassion for others in the world. Even the ones who do us dirty. Compassion and understanding can't replace burned bridges but it can build new ones. I'm still working on this.
You hit the nail on the head, its a combination of survivorship bias and just-world fallacy that cause people to hand-wave away the problems. Either out of "it doesn't happen to me" or "I've never seen it happen before" its really hard to reason with someone who doesn't see the thing you're complaining about to be a legitimate concern.
Compassion is the only answer. First self compassion, and then compassion for others in the world. Even the ones who do us dirty. Compassion and understanding can't replace burned bridges but it can build new ones. I'm still working on this.