Same here (second wife) and the thing is once OKCupid did it's job you didn't need it anymore - and that was a good thing.

The problem is that when you choose eternally needing customers you have to switch to the types of people who will never have a long term relationship - which Tinder style apps work better for.

But those kind of people also drive away the ones looking for a long-term partner.

Really sounds like poisoning the well.