I think what you say yo kids, and what you say to adults should be different.
And like either most of "growing up" the transition from one to the other is hard.
We want our kids to "work hard" because we know that to get places they will need to be able to do that. "Working hard" is a skill they need to learn.
But as adults, in the real world, "hard work" counts for nothing. The world rewards results, not the hours. Working effectively rewards more than working long. It's hard to explain to an employee that despite the fact they work "harder" than their colleagues, they get paid less because they deliver less. "Hard work" counts for very little.
Transitioning from hard work, to effective work, can be confusing for a young adult. That doesn't mean teaching children that hard work doesn't matter. It's precisely because they -can- work hard that it's possible to work smart.
> I think what you say to kids, and what you say to adults should be different.
I strongly disagree. Do you have children? Kids are smart and surprisingly logical. You don't need to molly coddle them about the value of hard work or even that they have different abilities to each other. You can deliver the news that they aren't as strong as their sister in a nice way just like you can deliver the news that an employee isn't as productive as their coworker in a nice way (and obviously avoid delivering it at all if possible in both cases).
If you want good parenting advice just watch Bluey. Look at how they talk to their children.
And like either most of "growing up" the transition from one to the other is hard.
We want our kids to "work hard" because we know that to get places they will need to be able to do that. "Working hard" is a skill they need to learn.
But as adults, in the real world, "hard work" counts for nothing. The world rewards results, not the hours. Working effectively rewards more than working long. It's hard to explain to an employee that despite the fact they work "harder" than their colleagues, they get paid less because they deliver less. "Hard work" counts for very little.
Transitioning from hard work, to effective work, can be confusing for a young adult. That doesn't mean teaching children that hard work doesn't matter. It's precisely because they -can- work hard that it's possible to work smart.