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Is it easier in India?

I have to actively avoid getting invites from people and feel bad when I refuse.

I’m a native and if I travel to a new city I can make friends in a jiffy.

I’m a 28 yo male and still not choosing to commit to marriage and this argument about finding friends later scares me at times. Is it really true? Does the depth of connection vary?

I also was in Germany about half the year in 22 and for sure it’s not as easy there. Being a part of a group is for sure easier for example in one of the hacker spaces. And I got 1 invite to eat dinner at what I can call a friend’s place.




Seems harder to make friends in developed countries. Not sure why that is. Maybe people can be more independent


It is likely a function of density. India is particularly heavily populated and their cities are very dense.

Suburbia and lower-density neighbourhoods will necessarily reduce the number of chance encounters, and thus possibilities to make friends. In many developed nations the only places to "be social" can often also be places in which you can only participate in through the lens of commercialism (e.g. going to a sporting event, paying to play pool or darts at a bar, etc.). This is often described as the loss of the "third place." It's heavily associated with sprawl and car-centric development, but even without that there's tons of places that don't have nearby public parks or plazas that they can just go and exist in without spending money. The pretext of a place to socialize and hang out changes if you need to spend a significant amount of money to participate.

Another reason could be that having easy access to cheap digital entertainment probably reduces the number of times most people voluntarily leave their house to go be social. I know at least for myself that I can easily hole up in my home and avoid the outside world if I want to. You have to make a conscious effort to decide to go out and do social things, and that can sometimes be very difficult in tandem with my previous point about sprawl. Do I really want to drive somewhere and spend money to be social today or should I just find a new show on Netflix? A hard problem when we structure our own incentives against our desires to make more friends!


Intellectuals in south asia are just great people. Good discussions, open minded attitude (not too closed off by culture and religion), and a general distrust of the state. Just my .02


Intellectuals in the US love the state, or at least act like they do.


Clear sign your not intellectual "enough" :)


"You're" quite right with your comment ;)


No dude, you’re just in the fricken prime of life and living it well.

Enjoy!!

I sincerely hope you have the same experience at 46!


Thank you, you're kind!


Nope :)




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