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Usually people choose to stay in abusive situations because they don’t believe they’re being abused, or have convinced themselves they have no better option. That doesn’t change the fact the environment is still abusive.

There’s a whole swaths of science and research behind this. It’s why domestic violence can continue for years unknown to anyone, even from friends, until it’s not.

OP isn’t saying they’re being abused as a fact, but if they are — at a workplace that seems as objectively toxic as Twitter right now — many who are still there won’t likely realize they were until afterwards.



> Usually people choose to stay in abusive situations because they don’t believe they’re being abused

I simply asked OP to list the abuses they think the engineers are unaware of.

> OP isn’t saying they’re being abused as a fact,

OP literally said "It would feel amazing after this much abuse"


My bad, I meant OP in regards to whom you directly responded to (emphasis mine)

> they will _probably realize_ years later that they were abused.


Yes that's the same person I quoted, "papito".

Their "probably" was about them probably realizing, not probably being abused.

OP was absolute in their accusation of abuse in his above post that I quoted.

That's why I asked them for specific examples.




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