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You can’t control the actions of others, only your own.

Another person is like a mountain: you can’t change anything about the mountain. You can only decide whether you’ll go around it, over it, or turn back.

I learned long ago to stop wasting my energy worrying about what other people did, and to focus on what I could do. Sometimes your actions can influence others, but you can’t make then do anything, they make their own choices and choose their own actions.



Most people are easily manipulated if you know how and are willing to do so. This has been proven multiple times, for example: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o8BkzvP19v4

There are other ways to make people do things as well like money or force.

Only strong minded people not afraid of death are truly immovable mountains.


I think this advice could be revised to.

"You can't change people, you can only manipulate them."


But you're agreeing with me. You can't make them do anything, but you can choose actions that influence them. It may work, it may not.




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