Might seem extreme but: I had a fairly good, reasonably happy childhood, definitely top 20th percent or so. For other reasons now going through counselling. Now have 2 small kids.
It made me realize how much of my childhood, and attitudes I took from it, wlare actually deeply screwed up. Literally none of it would come to mind without a psychologists help.
I'd say, do a favour to yourself, your kids and your partner, and give the same a try. You'll possibly come up with a ton of toxic stuff your kids don't need embedded in the deepest corners of their psyches.
It made me realize how much of my childhood, and attitudes I took from it, wlare actually deeply screwed up. Literally none of it would come to mind without a psychologists help.
I'd say, do a favour to yourself, your kids and your partner, and give the same a try. You'll possibly come up with a ton of toxic stuff your kids don't need embedded in the deepest corners of their psyches.