This isn’t accidental and it’s not about being kind or inclusive. Just the opposite actually. It’s about being able to distinguish the haves from the have-nots. Kids who know and are hip to the latest round of preferred euphemisms are “the type of kids who go to Stanford” (a.k.a rich, educated parents, respectful of the academic world). In other words, they’re cultural signifiers.

This is not to say that there aren’t changes to language that have real effects, but most of these banned words are not intrinsically different from their replacements.