I'm maybe a 6/10 on a good day. I went bald at 24 and chronically have black circles under my eyes. First dates don't really count, conversion is what counts.

Somehow, you can be somewhat successful in NYC if you're a skinny 5' 10" man, but it rarely leads to a real relationship, especially if you dislike drinking / partying.

That doesn't seem like it makes it better

It’s definitely grim out there for most young men these days. I’m 32 and make the money those girls are looking for but I can’t get a date to save my life cause I don’t have the looks. (Average in almost all aspects)

I’ve made offers to my friends that I’d pay them anywhere from $10k-$1m if they found me someone I ended up marrying. No one has taken it up - they know how bad the dating market is and that there’s zero shot.

Jesus. Don't you think that you're creating a perverse incentive for your friends to hook you up with just about anybody with no regard for whether they're a good fit/decent human being?

They’d like to but they can’t find anyone who’d do it anyway. Moot point about incentives if no one is willing to date you at all.

Physical attraction is everything these days.

I get the sense from your response that your self esteem is hurting. I don't know anything about you nor what you look like, but keeping fit and being mindful about what you wear goes a long way in my experience, both in terms of your confidence and attraction from other people.

Nah - I have very high self esteem. I just happen to not be good looking.

It’s boomer-talk to think that people don’t care about looks these days. The way people date has changed.