> Bullying doesn't magically disappear in adulthood and not being prepared for it may make it significantly worse.
What are you talking about? Were you ever actually bullied?
The only place where violence is tolerated is school. Post high school, if anyone physically bullied me, I’d just call the police, the person could end in jail or at least their career would be gone.
In school, you’re left to your own devices. Police don’t care, teachers can’t do anything because schooling is compulsory.
> people are receptive to it and don't defend themselves
Another delusional take. Why did she let him rape her, she should have just defended herself! Well, because I’m smaller, weaker, and there’s less of me (1 vs group of bullies). Taking it and hoping they leave is best option, not hitting back and provoking even more violence.
I think it’s best if you don’t contribute to this discussion any more to avoid embarrassing yourself further.
Even verbal abuse (I refuse to say bullying or violence), despite being incomparable to actual violence (IMO it’s inconsiderate to even make that comparison!) is much easier to deal with in adulthood.
You can literally just remove yourself from the situation! No such option for vast majority of school-age children (because schooling is compulsory).
I don't think that's bullying. I think he was simply offended by the post he was replying to. The deliberate malice you find in bullying just isn't there.
In a way, his post was a form of negotiation. He wants the other person to stop posting opinions he considers invalid and embarrassing, so he appealed to their self-interest in order to get them to change their behavior. Real violence comes with the threat of escalation: "you better stop, or else".
Verbally, yes - though it never escalated to actual violence. To be fair, they weren't "career" bullies (for the lack of a better word), but simply a clique of kids (that were otherwise decent in school) that like to make fun of other people - turns out that actually not being afraid and confronting them is all it took to 1) stop the bullying and 2) completely change the dynamics of the relationship where they saw me as one of theirs and from that on we had decent interactions. The only violent incident I was involved in had nothing to do with bullying and was about stealing my phone.
> The only place where violence is tolerated is school
Violence still costs significantly more than verbal bullying, so most bullies would generally not want to resort to it if they can avoid it. If your option is 1) pick on the weak kid or 2) pick on the weak kid that shows a willingness to fight, you will pick option 1 because option 2 will still attract significant more attention from authority even if you easily win the physical fight.
I'm sure there are gangs of violent bullies, but for each one of those there's probably hundreds of verbal bullies that just pick on people verbally for fun and have no desire for violence or even significant confrontation because it's too much risk & effort. Standing your ground would at least protect you against those as they'd rather move onto an easier target. Will it protect you against 100% of bullying? No. Will it protect you against 90% of it? Very likely.
What are you talking about? Were you ever actually bullied?
The only place where violence is tolerated is school. Post high school, if anyone physically bullied me, I’d just call the police, the person could end in jail or at least their career would be gone.
In school, you’re left to your own devices. Police don’t care, teachers can’t do anything because schooling is compulsory.
> people are receptive to it and don't defend themselves
Another delusional take. Why did she let him rape her, she should have just defended herself! Well, because I’m smaller, weaker, and there’s less of me (1 vs group of bullies). Taking it and hoping they leave is best option, not hitting back and provoking even more violence.
I think it’s best if you don’t contribute to this discussion any more to avoid embarrassing yourself further.