If you are applying for jobs described as opportunities for “software engineers”, and you qualify, it makes total sense to refer to yourself as such.

“Software engineering” is a common globally recognized phrase. Anyone overthinking a popular phrase after decades of use doesn’t understand language.

It is as ridiculous as a medical association getting worked up about PhD grads, a rapper, or the author of “Seuss” books being referred to as “doctor” without a medical license.

You can’t regulate global language trends. (Successfully)