> Did I have an unusually permissive advisor or something? My advisor didn’t control my leave - it was up to me to manage my time.
You indeed have a nice advisor. Some advisors are hard people who manage their student's time at 3am on a Saturday. Or who insist on 14 hour days. Students under these people (let's face it, they're not working with them, they're under them) have no good options.
I know many such students. Some universities are particularly prone to such behavior from faculty. I warn all of my undergrad students to go visit labs at 7-8pm and see how happy people are to be there before accepting an offer.
You indeed have a nice advisor. Some advisors are hard people who manage their student's time at 3am on a Saturday. Or who insist on 14 hour days. Students under these people (let's face it, they're not working with them, they're under them) have no good options.
I know many such students. Some universities are particularly prone to such behavior from faculty. I warn all of my undergrad students to go visit labs at 7-8pm and see how happy people are to be there before accepting an offer.