Everyone is focused on work-life balance because so much of the article praises the idea that dedicating your life to work is what makes companies "incredible sources of community and self-actualization."
Imagine you are a young adult with a young child, and your partner also works. How is any of the following tenable?
"Everyone stayed for dinner every night [..] there was no way I was going home before my neighbor was."
What about a family?
"my manager asked me to reconsider the vacation I had been planning because my team needed me. “If you go, who will cover your work?” I looked around at my colleagues who were also regularly working 15-hour days and decided to stay put."
What about your family? What about your colleagues' families?
"Call me masochistic, but I have to admit that it felt good to care about anything that much."
But this only works if you don't have other pursuits in life that you care about that much.
"But I am still nostalgic for a time when the gravitational pull of work was strong. For me and everyone around me."
As a husband and a father, as a manager, I want to create a place that allows people to do their best work, and then go home and give their best to their families without feeling pulled constantly back to work.
"It’s more about missing that universal agreement that it’s really, really cool to devote yourself fully to your work."
10 years from now most of us are not going to be working for the same company. 10 years from now most of my kids will be grown and I'll have lost the opportunity to invest in their lives and our relationship. I'm devoted to my work, but not at the expense of my wife who I promised to share my life with, or my children who I literally brought into this world. If I'm not there for them, present in their lives, who will be? I want to build that community. I want children who take to me when I'm older. I want a family that shares values. That only happens if I surge enough time with them, over time, to know what they value, to show what I value, to grow together as they change.
How many of those coworkers will we be sharing and creating close community with ten years from now? Are we really building a lasting community around this mission?
You say:
Forget work -- think about a side project, a hobby, a sport -- anything that you've applied yourself to.
And I agree with you about the value of having a performance oriented community focused on a meaningful mission,
but if we work the way the author is advocating through her examples we won't have time/energy to apply yourself to any other pursuit.
Imagine you are a young adult with a young child, and your partner also works. How is any of the following tenable?
"Everyone stayed for dinner every night [..] there was no way I was going home before my neighbor was."
What about a family?
"my manager asked me to reconsider the vacation I had been planning because my team needed me. “If you go, who will cover your work?” I looked around at my colleagues who were also regularly working 15-hour days and decided to stay put."
What about your family? What about your colleagues' families?
"Call me masochistic, but I have to admit that it felt good to care about anything that much."
But this only works if you don't have other pursuits in life that you care about that much.
"But I am still nostalgic for a time when the gravitational pull of work was strong. For me and everyone around me."
As a husband and a father, as a manager, I want to create a place that allows people to do their best work, and then go home and give their best to their families without feeling pulled constantly back to work.
"It’s more about missing that universal agreement that it’s really, really cool to devote yourself fully to your work."
10 years from now most of us are not going to be working for the same company. 10 years from now most of my kids will be grown and I'll have lost the opportunity to invest in their lives and our relationship. I'm devoted to my work, but not at the expense of my wife who I promised to share my life with, or my children who I literally brought into this world. If I'm not there for them, present in their lives, who will be? I want to build that community. I want children who take to me when I'm older. I want a family that shares values. That only happens if I surge enough time with them, over time, to know what they value, to show what I value, to grow together as they change.
How many of those coworkers will we be sharing and creating close community with ten years from now? Are we really building a lasting community around this mission?
You say:
Forget work -- think about a side project, a hobby, a sport -- anything that you've applied yourself to.
And I agree with you about the value of having a performance oriented community focused on a meaningful mission, but if we work the way the author is advocating through her examples we won't have time/energy to apply yourself to any other pursuit.