I've heard that some American religions try to 'fit' gay feelings into their principles by telling members it's ok to feel but not to act. Perhaps this is the reason for this sentiment? That by saying "love" I subscribe to the idea that only the physical act makes it 'real'? I find that concept very strange. As if the act is more real than the feeling of love or attraction for someone. For me it's the opposite.

In any case I changed it because I was clearly expressing a sentiment I didn't want to convey. Thanks for pointing it out.