Each life is unique, so going into details here might not help you right now. But with each story you might be able to cherry-pick something common with what's going on in your life. So here is ultimately short story of my last 10 years (English is not my native).
When I was turning 30 I was also very lonely. It was when I was in the middle of the transition from being physical worker to web developer. I was after a divorce which I initiated, my ex decided to take care of our son and to live in the another country while I came back to mine origin one (we were economical emigrants). Because of the career change, I had to kind of start my life from scratch - I moved to another part of the country where I knew nobody. I had also very little contact with my son and my family. I had to work for free to get some experience, had to cut my spending to bare minimum like rent and food. I remember spending my 30th birthday completely alone in a dark room, small room that I rented, thinking that I must be the least capable and liked person that I know.
What helped me stay sane was that shortly before all that change started, I defined myself - what I wanna do in life, what I want to pursue, what kind of relationships I want to have. I also took a look at myself, I believe I figured out what put me in this situation and what should I change (or better word - work) about myself to get where I wanted, along with being honest to myself. I think that in general I stopped to worry so much about failures, but man, there were many of them around that time. I started to see small successes and I kept on focusing on them and on achieving them - whenever I got really miserable I tried to sum up what did go well, even if it was a tiny bit, like just finding a good tune.
It took years, and some things worked out (work, family, new relationship) and some not (I still have almost no friends). I also learned that the less I compare myself to anybody, the happier I am and more focused on my goals I can be. I learned to be inspired instead of envying, I learned to back off instead of making my point when I see it will change nothing. I learned to cherish moments and that learning new things can give real pleasure.
Many people go through loneliness at some point in their lives, even if most of those you see around and in social medial, seem to be way ahead of that and way happier. I hope you will be able to find a way that will work for you soon!
I am in my mid twenties and I spent every birthday in the last few years in a lonely dark room by myself. I am amazed I am still mentally sane at this point in my life xD. I also live in a forgein country with no friends, family or partner. And I am poor AF.
When I was turning 30 I was also very lonely. It was when I was in the middle of the transition from being physical worker to web developer. I was after a divorce which I initiated, my ex decided to take care of our son and to live in the another country while I came back to mine origin one (we were economical emigrants). Because of the career change, I had to kind of start my life from scratch - I moved to another part of the country where I knew nobody. I had also very little contact with my son and my family. I had to work for free to get some experience, had to cut my spending to bare minimum like rent and food. I remember spending my 30th birthday completely alone in a dark room, small room that I rented, thinking that I must be the least capable and liked person that I know. What helped me stay sane was that shortly before all that change started, I defined myself - what I wanna do in life, what I want to pursue, what kind of relationships I want to have. I also took a look at myself, I believe I figured out what put me in this situation and what should I change (or better word - work) about myself to get where I wanted, along with being honest to myself. I think that in general I stopped to worry so much about failures, but man, there were many of them around that time. I started to see small successes and I kept on focusing on them and on achieving them - whenever I got really miserable I tried to sum up what did go well, even if it was a tiny bit, like just finding a good tune.
It took years, and some things worked out (work, family, new relationship) and some not (I still have almost no friends). I also learned that the less I compare myself to anybody, the happier I am and more focused on my goals I can be. I learned to be inspired instead of envying, I learned to back off instead of making my point when I see it will change nothing. I learned to cherish moments and that learning new things can give real pleasure.
Many people go through loneliness at some point in their lives, even if most of those you see around and in social medial, seem to be way ahead of that and way happier. I hope you will be able to find a way that will work for you soon!