You can save your pity. Self esteem is more important and it comes from within. There are plenty of variables to excel at, and if people are going to be superficial about physical traits, they get what they optimize for. Others optimize for intelligence, wealth, creativity, kindness, fun, knowledge, influence, power etc (first within themselves, then people around them including their significant other). also, a lot of people simply aren’t driven by jealousy, or emotion, or fight with reality.