Get married and have kids already. The developed world population has been well below the replacement level, and you will have a new purpose in life, one that is very hard, but feels biologically correct. Kids are a way to try to "get right" all the mistakes you made or people made with you. Of course they will make their own mistakes, but we're talking about what will be rewarding for you. You sound like you have experienced a lot, and should pass on your skills and learnings. You also need higher day to day priorities than your own mental health in order to "get out of your own head" and finish maturing into an adult, IMHO.
(Speaking from experience)
Don’t know why you’re being downvoted. Sounds like there are a lot of resentful childless population here on HN. The OP asked for advices and someone’s giving it. Chill folks
Oh, I fully expected it. And let me be the first to say, a lot of people are having kids at the wrong time and with the wrong people, which is worse than waiting. But IMHO there is a huge cultural malaise with individual psychological consequences in developed nations not promoting childbearing, even in ones with strong social safety nets.
I see more dogs at the parks and beaches these days than kids. People think not having kids is in their own self interest. I think they are terribly mistaken even though it is very counterintuitive.
Dumb question, how do you downvote a post on this site? Not that I have any particular desire to - but I'm curious because I only see an upvote option.
