It’s called “grooming”. When someone holds an influential spot in your life, you can develop complex feelings for that person, which can be hard to distinguish from romantic feelings. The fewer healthy adult relationships you’ve had, due to age or circumstance, the harder it can be to sort out these feelings. Which is why therapists cannot date patients, teachers date students, and it’s frowned upon for teachers to date former students.
Just because you fixed my life doesn’t mean we should bone. As the person with power in the dynamic the responsibility is on you to remember this.
When you mentor someone who has no life experience or especially attachment issues you are consciously or unconsciously dealing with a power dynamic. If you try to turn that romantic, or even if you just let it happen, you are exploiting that dynamic. That is why people who do that are called predators, even if they follow the letter of the law.
Just because you fixed my life doesn’t mean we should bone. As the person with power in the dynamic the responsibility is on you to remember this.
When you mentor someone who has no life experience or especially attachment issues you are consciously or unconsciously dealing with a power dynamic. If you try to turn that romantic, or even if you just let it happen, you are exploiting that dynamic. That is why people who do that are called predators, even if they follow the letter of the law.