> When they feel like they're about to say something inappropriate, their instinct is to pause and recheck their thinking
This is something all intellectually honest people learn to do, one way or the other. We're all very familiar with claims that are simple, mostly plausible, and totally wrong for $COMPLICATED_REASON. After a while, you learn to double-check your thinking to avoid being nerd-sniped by someone saying "Bzzzzzzzt, that's wrong."
Inappropriate and incorrect are very different things. One thing they have in common, though, is that after processing feedback over and over again that doesn't affect your thinking at all because it comes from a perspective you fundamentally disagree with, you learn to tune it out. For example, if you're talking about Covid 19 vaccines and there's an anti-vaxxer in the group, you'll eventually stop engaging with the content of what they say, because it isn't worth your time.
A significant difference is that incorrectness is context-sensitive in a different way than inappropriateness. Saying something incorrect can be a productive part of a conversation that serves a shared goal of achieving correctness. I'm not going to feel inhibited or embarrassed about saying something incorrect unless I haven't put in the appropriate level of preparation for the context. Saying something inappropriate cannot serve a higher shared goal of avoiding inappropriateness, because it spoils that goal from the start.
This is something all intellectually honest people learn to do, one way or the other. We're all very familiar with claims that are simple, mostly plausible, and totally wrong for $COMPLICATED_REASON. After a while, you learn to double-check your thinking to avoid being nerd-sniped by someone saying "Bzzzzzzzt, that's wrong."