I know it goes against the grain, and probably doesn't contribute much to the discussion

But I'd make an effort to avoid any software that whines about "SJW's"

I feel like more and more developers are opting for the second form. I'm reminded of litestream (https://github.com/benbjohnson/litestream) for example that is closed to contribution

On that note, it'd be nice if GitHub or other repo hosts had a way to leave project feedback that wasn't entirely around something that needs fixed.

Github is adding the discussions feature, which adds a sort-of forum to repos (needs to be enabled)

(although generally a "just wanted to say thanks" "issue" is also well-received, even if thats not what issues are for. Or reaching out through any other channel, if the dev advertises one)

You can always install your own GitLab and open it to the world.