My partner is an academic. I am an academic. We both have tenure-track jobs in different universities -- and different countries. I really, _desperately_ want children some day; I don't quite have the guts to tell her _how much_ I _inherently know_ I do, but I think she knows, and I know that some day she does too -- but it won't work until we're in the same country. We're just getting to that point where we _really_ should start sprogging soon, but because of society, we can't. I know I'm in for a tough ride in the future, but I love her, don't want to leave her, and therefore don't like thinking about it and put my head in the sand.