Use a candleholder that includes a glass sheath. The solution has been known for a long, long time, because a major cause of flickering unprotected candles -- or even extinguishing them -- is that you walk around while holding them.
With a clean, dry wick it's pretty easy to get a very still flame for a long, long period of time. Though if you have a fan or something blowing, you're out of luck.
Well then that's my excuse! I thought it did, so I was making sure to point the controller in the proper direction, while my opponent was cheating and flicking it any which way.