Music was different during the illegal rave days in the UK. It brought people together to party. Kids were doing the organising and not to make money. You would work with your friends to pull off an event that could be a house party for 25 to 100 people or some event for 200 to 2000 people. Some people got to play records and be the DJ, some got to sell drugs to their mates (mostly at cost), some got to get laid and everyone got to dance. You would have a network of people able to do sound systems, lights, decor and whatever else needed. Publicity was word of mouth with no social media or even mobile phones.

Eventually the music died along with the organising capability. Nowadays there are organised festivals with security, laws to obey and profits to make. Kids go to these proper events as spectators rather than participants. There is nothing subversive about it.

The culture that went with the rave party scene in the UK was a reaction to the Thatcher government. Temporary autonomous party zones where the police were powerless were wonderfully exciting. Today I don't stumble across the equivalent scene when travelling at night. There is no equivalent going on, young people are just not having the same fun. It is consumer capitalism all the way.

This. Capitalism and consumerism reign. Nobody is interested in “fighting the machine” or even aware of what it is.

I receive plenty (and expected) downvotes any time I mention fighting 'the man/machine'...this is simply NOT the audience for such content. Indeed, there are few places on the interwebs where this is even welcome. It is still a struggle even in the venues the discussion is welcome, especially if you're 'a Boomer' or GenX'r...we are just the wrong tribe at present.

Women are almost certainly not looking down on you for being successful and making money.

Unless they had literally said that to your face, I would just say it’s something related but more specific about your success and income. Given the context in the rest of comment, that seems likely.