> Having done this a lot, I can say it's not worth discussing, no one (very few people anyway,) genuinely want to hear the bare truth, it's too brutal.
Assuming one's evaluation of "worth" only considers other people's desires and the uncomfortableness that comes with being hated (and downvoted) by every single sub-group. But that also is a low-dimensional form of evaluation. :)
To be clear, this isn't to say I disagree with you at all, I suspect we're probably more or less on the same page.
Human language is far too low-bandwidth to discuss these types of things, even without the massive (and invisible) psychological handicaps we suffer from. If you know what to look for, you start noticing it in various forms of art, which are capable of much higher bandwidth (but lower....fidelity?):
Having done this a lot, I can say it's not worth discussing, no one (very few people anyway,) genuinely want to hear the bare truth, it's too brutal.