I'm not 100% sure why you've been downvoted, I'm guessing it's the grammar. I've voted you up for asking a good question.
Like almost everyone, I had a fairly bad breakup once. I was basically engaged, we would have been except she wanted me to wait 'till after college to ask. Then one day, she left me. For one of my close friends. It was bad. I was real fucked up about it. I had sort of built everything up around our relationship, so it pretty much wrecked most of my plans.
As I tried (and failed) at getting another girlfriend, failure leads to lack of confidence, which makes it harder to attract women, which leads to failure, and the cycle continues. What PUA did for me was make me realize that I had the rules of the game wrong. I was really angry that I was 'doing everything right' and it still wasn't working out, until I realized that it wasn't that I was an unworthy dude, I was just playing by the wrong rules. Of course using the wrong ruleset leads to failure. It wasn't my fault, really, it was that I was being a bit naive. So while I wasn't hardcore following the PUA ruleset, it helped increase my self esteem a great deal, which naturally meant I was better. Eventually, success. Though PUA almost screwed that up, but that's another story...
Like almost everyone, I had a fairly bad breakup once. I was basically engaged, we would have been except she wanted me to wait 'till after college to ask. Then one day, she left me. For one of my close friends. It was bad. I was real fucked up about it. I had sort of built everything up around our relationship, so it pretty much wrecked most of my plans.
As I tried (and failed) at getting another girlfriend, failure leads to lack of confidence, which makes it harder to attract women, which leads to failure, and the cycle continues. What PUA did for me was make me realize that I had the rules of the game wrong. I was really angry that I was 'doing everything right' and it still wasn't working out, until I realized that it wasn't that I was an unworthy dude, I was just playing by the wrong rules. Of course using the wrong ruleset leads to failure. It wasn't my fault, really, it was that I was being a bit naive. So while I wasn't hardcore following the PUA ruleset, it helped increase my self esteem a great deal, which naturally meant I was better. Eventually, success. Though PUA almost screwed that up, but that's another story...