I agree that taking it to an extreme can be a poison, but neglecting it entirely can be a poison too.
I've said this before on HN, but my recommendation is this: Most people can find a set of things they're willing to do. If you only have one thing you think you can do with your life, first try expanding your wings and sampling a few more things.
Then, write down on one list the things you want to do with life, in some rough order of preference. On another list, write down the marketable things you think you're capable of, in some rough order of lucrativeness.
Odds are, there's going to be something that shows up reasonably positioned on both lists. "Software engineer" was certainly not my #1 on my "list of things I'd like to do", but my personal #1 was frankly absurdly unrealistic and barely shows on the "what I can make money with" list at all. (The modal outcome is quite likely $0/yr, honestly.) But software engineer was a pretty solid #2. On the other side of the list, I probably could have been a lawyer, and may well have made more money at it, but it didn't show very high on my "list of things I'd like to do". Software engineer was somewhere around #2 on both lists, so it won. I have no regrets. It was a fine choice. And it was something I could easily figure out how to angle for, and there was no simply blundering into a career.
If you do want to write something, and you want to make money at it, I recommend a similar approach. Wanting to write a romance novel and deciding to write a self-help book may not bring you joy, but wanting to write a romance novel and instead writing a YA romance novel because that's where the money is may not be such a sacrifice.
I missed that on HN before, so thanks for writing again. I never thought of writing down two lists, even though it's obvious in retrospect. I'll try this exercise.
I did come to the conclusion some time ago that since writing code is my #1 money-making skill and in top #3 of "things I'd love to do" (and a part of #1 too), but the types of programs to write are different, I need to focus on finding overlap in what I write when looking for jobs or (now) customers.
I've said this before on HN, but my recommendation is this: Most people can find a set of things they're willing to do. If you only have one thing you think you can do with your life, first try expanding your wings and sampling a few more things.
Then, write down on one list the things you want to do with life, in some rough order of preference. On another list, write down the marketable things you think you're capable of, in some rough order of lucrativeness.
Odds are, there's going to be something that shows up reasonably positioned on both lists. "Software engineer" was certainly not my #1 on my "list of things I'd like to do", but my personal #1 was frankly absurdly unrealistic and barely shows on the "what I can make money with" list at all. (The modal outcome is quite likely $0/yr, honestly.) But software engineer was a pretty solid #2. On the other side of the list, I probably could have been a lawyer, and may well have made more money at it, but it didn't show very high on my "list of things I'd like to do". Software engineer was somewhere around #2 on both lists, so it won. I have no regrets. It was a fine choice. And it was something I could easily figure out how to angle for, and there was no simply blundering into a career.
If you do want to write something, and you want to make money at it, I recommend a similar approach. Wanting to write a romance novel and deciding to write a self-help book may not bring you joy, but wanting to write a romance novel and instead writing a YA romance novel because that's where the money is may not be such a sacrifice.