For another data point: I'm an American woman. I swear like a sailor. Sadly, this has failed to be man-repellent.
If only! My life would be vastly simpler if my foul mouth just got me left the hell alone by men.
Also, everything I have read and experienced suggests that other women are a huge source of social pressure on female behavior, possibly far more than male sexual predilections.
An actress once said "I dress for women. I undress for men." That seems to sum certain things up nicely in a nutshell.
I did not mean to imply that no American women swear. But, I never expected that swearing would be man-repellent nor was told anything of the sort.
> Also, everything I have read and experienced suggests that other women are a huge source of social pressure on female behavior, possibly far more than male sexual predilections.
It is kind of interesting that whenever general "society expects women x" many many people translate it into "men expects women x". My observation is that men are bigger on putting social pressure on other men and women on other women. Or more generally, people tend to be much bigger on being upset about breaking rules they consider themselves being bound up to.
> I never expected that swearing would be man-repellent nor was told anything of the sort.
It's not just me. It's unusual to see a couple where one swears and the other doesn't. Swearing will also exclude one from various social, business, and political circles, and they'll never tell you why. They may not even consciously know themselves.
When I pick up my date, if she's obviously spent effort to dress nice for our evening, it's a big plus for me.
A lot of men (me included) check for a ring and do not approach if there is one. Not all men are dissuaded by that, of course.
Consider there are a lot worse things than being attractive to men. Attractiveness makes for many opportunities, studies show that attractive people get paid more and get better tips. I am not physically attractive to women (none of my girlfriends have ever complimented me on my looks) so I have to work that much harder. Maybe they like me because I don't swear :-)
Consider there are a lot worse things than being attractive to men.
Plenty of women have been raped and stalked. Some would be hard pressed to name worse experiences than the ones they have had for the crime of being attractive.
What I wish is that I had not been molested and raped as a child and that I weren't currently being cyberstalked by nefarious individuals that have a track record of genuinely materially harming me. In fact, I wish a short list of people who have harmed me and will not cease and desist their icky crap would kindly drop dead as the only thing they could possibly do to enhance my life.
I also wish I didn't have to put up with "gotcha" questions of this sort.
My wife knows how to tell a story and use just a few curse words, if the company is right, to really deliver an impactful, humanizing, and relatable event. It's part of why I love her.
Swearing can be very impactful when sparingly and appropriately applied. Using "fucking" as a universal adjective and "shit" as a universal noun not only lacks class, it is a complete absence of eloquence.
FWIW, a woman swearing definitely lowers her attractiveness, at least to me, by quite a bit.