So at some point, you have to ask yourself if the headache of working around something Rails doesn't do well is worth throwing Rails out completely over. Can it be tossed off to a microservice and routed away in nginx or whatever? Does it really not suit the Active Record pattern?

If you need a screwdriver, then stop complaining about how much your hammer sucks and get a screwdriver instead. Or ask yourself if a nail could work in the same situation.