I know the lifestyle I was living while she was having kids: working at McDonald's to pay all my bills including tuition at a nice college. If she had been willing to apply herself she would have got some nice scholarships - just for making the stupid decision to have children she couldn't support)

Yes the lifestyle she lived was not great. I'm not arguing it was. I've lived that lifestyle myself (though I had to make my own money, after basics there was nothing left over)