When my first child was born, I had the "pleasure" of staying home with her most of the day, while I got to learn programming.
Fast forward a few years and boom! Mom and I have totally immersive careers requiring 8+ hours a day from us. (Every weekday, even! Sometimes more!).
In fact, mom is just as much of the breadwinner as I am (more even), so who's gonna watch the kids? We had kids in our twenties, our parents had kids in their twenties (read: not retired babysitters), everyone has their own thing going on. And they all make it work.
We make it work by sending our kids to the most amazing school/daycare system I've ever seen. It's so professional you wouldn't believe it. Their teachers are much better school teachers than we would be.
It's great because they get to learn how to socialize, their immune systems get a proper boost before K-12, they learn new hobbies and advance in programs I couldn't have dreamed of when I was kid. The intelligence level of my 4-year old is quite astounding to me, and I have the entirety of her school to thank.
It's hardly dumping them there. But if it is, that's a really fucking expensive dump.
Well, if you cared enough to look for an experience you thought would be good for your kids then you don't fit in what I was talking about.
I probably don't agree with you on everything, but you seen to care about what your children are doing when they're not with you, what doesn't happen with most parents I know.
When my first child was born, I had the "pleasure" of staying home with her most of the day, while I got to learn programming.
Fast forward a few years and boom! Mom and I have totally immersive careers requiring 8+ hours a day from us. (Every weekday, even! Sometimes more!).
In fact, mom is just as much of the breadwinner as I am (more even), so who's gonna watch the kids? We had kids in our twenties, our parents had kids in their twenties (read: not retired babysitters), everyone has their own thing going on. And they all make it work.
We make it work by sending our kids to the most amazing school/daycare system I've ever seen. It's so professional you wouldn't believe it. Their teachers are much better school teachers than we would be.
It's great because they get to learn how to socialize, their immune systems get a proper boost before K-12, they learn new hobbies and advance in programs I couldn't have dreamed of when I was kid. The intelligence level of my 4-year old is quite astounding to me, and I have the entirety of her school to thank.
It's hardly dumping them there. But if it is, that's a really fucking expensive dump.