I have come to realize that I am very self centered, but I can’t quite figure out why.
I tend to get very caught up and focused on what is going on in my life and never stop to think about others. It is more that the thought never occurs to me, as opposed to me consciously prioritizing myself over others.
My wife on the other hand is very thoughtful, always checking in on others to see how they are doing. I wish I could be more like that, but would require some external override (eg setting a reminder on my phone) instead of me organically deciding to do so.
Our situation is very much the same. In fact, it was constantly seeing my wife check-in with her family that encouraged me to do the same. About a month ago I called my grandmother and had a two-hour convo and I learned that my mother never wanted her to have my number, for whatever reason. I regret not thinking of reaching out to her sooner but we're both glad I did.
My parents divorced when I was 13 or so but dual-parented. My dad was very focused on trying to get me to be more "macho" and my mom didn't seem to care much about whatever I had going on. So, I kept to myself; reading books, dreaming up inventions, sketching, &c. When college came, I found out via campus security that I did NOT have a college fund and was subsequently removed from campus. For some reason, my mom seemed angry at me for being home even though she's the one who bragged to everyone for YEARS that her kids had a college fund and never had to worry about working while focusing on education.
I'm starting to feel resentment as I recall things so I'll just say this: my feeling weren't considered when I was a child/teen, I didn't have help in early adulthood, and I was setup to fail (credit/identity theft victim, per mother). As a result, I had to learn how to live in the "real world" without a safety net and try to figure out how to forgive people because these people would never apologize (or even remember their actions).
Doing all this got me through all right. I'm self-taught, have a pretty cool job, and live relatively stress-free in a safe community with a great school district. Nearly ever day is sunny but having someone you trust that can tell you objective things about yourself is a must.
Thinking of others when you've only thought of yourself for two decades is hella difficult but not impossible. I make sure to call my grandmother at least every two weeks. I look for ways to make my wife's life easier around the house. I'm more productive in my downtime so I can make progress on my personal projects so I can be present when the family's doing something. It's a lot of work but my life has demonstrably improved.
"I did NOT have a college fund and was subsequently removed from campus" -- wait, what? This is a thing in the US?
We don't even have "college funds" in Australia but if you don't pay your uni fees you just won't get a degree, nobody's going to physically remove you from anywhere, that seems nuts...
Yeah so for us in the States, the concept of a college fund is just a bank account that parents deposit money into over the course of a child's life so when they reach college age there isn't anxiety about the cost of college.
It's not that I didn't have one, it's that my mom lied to me about having one and was instead writing bad checks to the college. They didn't like checks bouncing so I had a few days to get off campus or else.
Believe it or not there was an outcry here when fees were introduced for tertiary education. But you pay them using a government-backed interest-free loan - I think it took me 6 or 7 years to pay off two degrees? Still, as I said, even if for whatever reason you attended lectures etc. without having paid for enrolment, nobody would care.
My therapist mentioned the same thing to me recently so I suppose it is worth investigating further.
I had never considered it before that, probably due to lack of understanding of what ADD/ADHD is (when I was growing up the stereotype was high energy kids bouncing off the walls and unable to sit still and focus in class, whereas I was low energy, introverted, and had always done well in school and work so it was never a thought).
i can recognize myself in what you just wrote. and in my case i am pretty sure that it comes from my parents divorce and the lack of role models. there was nobody in my life growing up who would show care for me or for others in the way that your wife (and also mine) was doing it. i have the same issue with generosity. i haven't experienced people being generous as i grew up and as a result i don't know how to do it. it's just not something that i'd think about, and i have to consciously remind myself to share more things with others.
on the other hand, despite being somewhat introvert, i have no problem inviting some of those regilious types, when they come knocking at my door and having a serious conversation with them, while critically inspecting their claims. why? because that i did learn from my dad who was welcoming, open minded yet serious about his own beliefs.
Or we halt the research until computational models become viable. You make it seem like we have no choice but to test on animals. I’m sure that is how the researchers rationalize it to themselves.
We could do that, but the amount of preventable suffering that decision would cause, to me, makes that a bad decision.
I'm sure an argument to stop research in lifesaving medicine is easy to rationalize if you're in a privileged position where you don't have to deal with your children dying from malaria or being born with HIV, your elder family members slowly disappearing to Alzheimer's, or your partner's body withering away to cancer
I have had to deal with at least one of those things. It still doesn’t change my opinion.
I feel that it is ethically wrong to enslave and torture animals for humanities benefit. If that means that I will die from a disease that would have been prevented otherwise, I can accept that. I don’t feel it is right for me to impose suffering on another sentient being for my own incremental benefit.
Interesting last thought. I have long wondered whether our brains are fully “deterministic”, but I assume that would be nearly impossible to verify for a device with such complex state and varied input.
The fixed base station is a fundamentally different tradeoff for AR vs VR.
Base station for AR would be detrimental, as you inherently want to explore and interact with the world around you.
For most VR use cases that is not the case, and I can see the argument for the benefits of a base station (higher performance) outweighing the costs (limited movement).
One solution to this for AR is using "fog computing", where your AR device may offload its computation to a node on the local network that's more powerful but also not as far away (in terms of latency) as a cloud server. Perhaps with the continued adoption of UWB 5G, those AR basestations could exist at cell towers or in local establishments - think about a clothing store running fog nodes to allow AR users to visualize wearing different clothes as they see them in the store.
I haven't read more than the abstract, but it seems there is some good research going into this. It must be years off however, as we barely have LTE networks in some locations, let-alone UWB 5G to even begin supporting this type of architecture.
This kind of throughput is quite achievable if you get a high quality 6E router. Of course you need compatible client devices too, which is a bit of a challenge right now.
everything else is already being handled by a centralized authority (twitter), why not let them also handle letting users post anonymously after having been verified?
Even with “hard” requirements in advance, things are always subject to change, or unforeseen requirements additions/modifications will be needed.
I don’t see why you can’t maintain the spirit of agile and develop iteratively while increasing fidelity, in order to learn out these things as early as possible.
> I don’t see why you can’t maintain the spirit of agile and develop iteratively
The question is not whether you can't. The question is whether it provides advantages. Agile comes with its own downsides compared to a waterfall. Note, that I've been working with agile methods most of my career and I don't want to change that.
it is something i have thought about occasionally. i don’t have a fully formed opinion, so am open to others challenging my logic here…
i have come to accept that a strong military power can serve as a deterrent to others, and ultimately lead to a more peaceful existence (in the aggregate). i don’t believe that human beings can co-exist peacefully, so this deterrent is necessary (until we have some other means to achieve peace).
i would use a similar thought process to morally justify work on a general AI. given enough time i believe that humanity will destroy ourselves and this planet. in lieu of another solution, we may need an AI to assert control to prevent this from happening (or backfire and bring us fully into a hollywood dystopian future).
at the risk of going on a rant now, i have often found it hard to morally justify working on space travel, as i don’t believe that humanity has demonstrated that it deserves to colonize beyond Earth. that would only enable us to consume and destroy more of the universe.
Why doesn't the universe have the right to "destroy" itself through its most sophisticated subset of matter-energy known to date?
I put "destroy" in quotes since I think that's ridiculously loaded. The biosphere itself is naturally unsustainable at its current complexity for more than 1 billion years from now[0], the Sun is going to go red giant past the next 5 billion years, and, as far as we know, the universe will end in heat death. Entropy and transformation is inevitable. Humans contribute to that, but doing it in the service of higher cognitive functions by which the universe can know itself should be the noblest reason for it to happen (from a human perspective), no?
Another counterpoint: what if humanity only becomes worthy of spreading itself in civilizations that can only form post-Earth (too far into the future to still be living on Earth)? Should those be condemned to non-existence because humanity's original nucleus didn't bootstrap itself impressively enough to earn a chance at outliving its planet?
i foresee this as the main problem with a distributed, hybrid workforce.
in my experience, you need to be all the way into one camp (remote) or the other (on-site) to reap the full benefits, otherwise you are just getting the downsides of both.
any best practices that others have found for dealing with a distributed, hybrid team? (assuming you don’t have the authority to make everyone onsite/remote)
I have come to realize that I am very self centered, but I can’t quite figure out why.
I tend to get very caught up and focused on what is going on in my life and never stop to think about others. It is more that the thought never occurs to me, as opposed to me consciously prioritizing myself over others.
My wife on the other hand is very thoughtful, always checking in on others to see how they are doing. I wish I could be more like that, but would require some external override (eg setting a reminder on my phone) instead of me organically deciding to do so.