We knew each other a little, and he was looking for a tech cofounder. I accepted. The "cofounder" title he offered me seemed shiny and respectable, now it almost feels misleading.

I am definitely working for a "business visionary", although he pays me decently and we have decent traction.

I wouldn't last a week at a tech company because I have huge troubles with authority and policies and rules etc. I've never had a "real job" in my life; always in not very interesting organizations (including academia) where my lack of discipline was tolerated.

I know exactly how you feel. Having to show up to an office after working at your own startup is challenging, writing pointless unit tests and doing what a boss tells you after years of cowboy coding sucks. Take a short break from work (2-3 days) and catch up on sleep and any errands that make you stressed. Evaluate your life after that. Startups are a huge grind sometimes, and it's totally normal to burn out and hate it. If you're a cofounder, you should expect to burn out, otherwise you weren't working hard enough. After you take a break:

- you're valuable to your startup and difficult to replace

- the more traction your startup gets, the better your next job

- cofounder disagreement is normal, otherwise you're not engaged enough

- address any issues and don't be afraid to ask for justification if you disagree with anything, after all the value of a startup is to teach you how to make hard decisions

- is there anything interesting you think the startup should be doing, but isn't? Do it! - is there anything marketable that you want to learn, but it only relates to the startup tangentially? Do it!

sounds like you need to work on yourself first. Look into ways to increase your discipline (ie quitting weed potentially).

> because I have huge troubles with authority and policies and rules etc. Are you 15? You sound tremendously immature.

Not all such problems can be traced to maturity. Some people just don't do well in environments when your behavior is controlled. Just because people learn to deal with it eventually doesn't mean it's related to maturity. Some people are born into a cubicle, others prefer less structured environments and continually fail at traditional jobs until that happens. Independence is incredibly valuable and I don't fault him at all for needing it more than the rest of society.

EDIT: And I really hope you wouldn't say this to his face, I hope you understand what you're doing. Calling him immature only makes his problems worse, he came to HN for help and got criticized unfairly.