I am currently going through a drawn out stressful chapter of my life, seems like it keeps getting dragged on and on.
Not sure which of these are a good idea but I did all of these, and though the stressful chapter is not over yet, I think I am in a better place than when it all started.
- I felt like moving on is not a thing you do, but more like what happens when other (hopefully better) things fill up your life and the past haunts you less and less.
- Get busy, I joined a book club, hiking club, local sports league, many local meetups, used messaging apps to create groups and stay in touch constantly with old friends. Talk to your close friends candidly about how you feel. Meet more people, create more chances for things to happen - new friends, new experiences etc.
- I didn't want to fall into the trap of alcohol or smoking excessively, I used to indulge in both before but I consciously reduced both and started swimming and setup goals to improve my swimming etc. (very happy I did this)
- Pick up fun personal/hobby projects to keep you buys, as much as I say you should do this, I personally didn't do much of it until I started feeling better a lot later.
- Many have mentioned it here, but give it time, it will not happen overnight.
- Embrace change, I think I even changed the orientation of all furniture in the house too, eventually changed the house as well (easier for me since I was renting)
- Find people/friends who have gone through similar stuff, its always good to talk to them. I made it a point to hang out a bit with such people.
I remember it was very stressful initially, but eventually it gets better. I am in a much better place than I was then, though my ordeal is still getting drawn out and doesn't seem to end, hopefully soon. As someone else said it here, all these experiences now make you who you really are.
Not sure which of these are a good idea but I did all of these, and though the stressful chapter is not over yet, I think I am in a better place than when it all started.
- I felt like moving on is not a thing you do, but more like what happens when other (hopefully better) things fill up your life and the past haunts you less and less.
- Get busy, I joined a book club, hiking club, local sports league, many local meetups, used messaging apps to create groups and stay in touch constantly with old friends. Talk to your close friends candidly about how you feel. Meet more people, create more chances for things to happen - new friends, new experiences etc.
- I didn't want to fall into the trap of alcohol or smoking excessively, I used to indulge in both before but I consciously reduced both and started swimming and setup goals to improve my swimming etc. (very happy I did this)
- Pick up fun personal/hobby projects to keep you buys, as much as I say you should do this, I personally didn't do much of it until I started feeling better a lot later.
- Many have mentioned it here, but give it time, it will not happen overnight.
- Embrace change, I think I even changed the orientation of all furniture in the house too, eventually changed the house as well (easier for me since I was renting)
- Find people/friends who have gone through similar stuff, its always good to talk to them. I made it a point to hang out a bit with such people.
I remember it was very stressful initially, but eventually it gets better. I am in a much better place than I was then, though my ordeal is still getting drawn out and doesn't seem to end, hopefully soon. As someone else said it here, all these experiences now make you who you really are.